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This is not intended to be an up close and personal conversation, more of a means to express a general view of things. Why do you think fetishes exist? Are they within the scope of normal behavior?

maybe people get bored?

Reasons depend on the fetish you got. Sometimes it's psychological (trauma or fear in your youth), and sometimes it's something someone else you know does.

Fetishes vary so much. From quite mainstream ones to the simply fucked up. Maybe your born with it? You don't develop fetishes, they just.. happen. Wether that fetish is in the scope of normal behavior really depends on what the fetish is.

Insomniac!, on 9 Jan 2009, 9:40, said:

I agree with you on that.

I think some of them are simply primitve drives that most People supress, like the defilement pinion.

Also, according to Sigmund Freud, the moment you start to live you're going through different "Phases".
According to him, it starts with the Oral Phase (liking to suck on your Thumb etc.), then the Narzistic Phase, Anal Phase and so on.

Maybe some simply relive those Phases / set them free, while others supress them / don't want to even think about those things / find them discusting.

- E.V.E.

*Fights overwhelming urge to make stupid childish jokes using the names of phases and the fact that EVE has said them*

Anyway, fetishes, hmmmmm, well I don't believe that there is much that is naturally inbuilt in a human beyond the need to survive and procreate. Everything else is learned [nature v nurture debate again]. So from my pov it would have to be something that has been previously experienced at an age at which it has left a marked impression on a personality.

I think they are quite often a person trying to identify with themselves parts of their past and realise who they are through these fetishes.

The concept of fetishes themselves, in my view is normal.
However, people's fetishes will be abnormal to others, because it's not something that other people find arousing or enjoyable.

I myself have some verryyy fucked up fetishes that I'm not going to share with any of you. Ever.
Even I know that you would all find them abnormal. I can't even explain these fetishes even to myself. It's like an addiction, something I can't help. Something that if I try to turn my back on it I come back to it even wrose.
Edited by Nidmeister, 09 January 2009 - 21:24.

I find the prospect of fetishes very interesting actually. There are some pretty odd things out there if you go looking for them. As for myself, I'm clean when it comes to sexual deviations.

Insomniac!, on 9 Jan 2009, 16:40, said:

I think that aswell... Even though I do not understand some of them, I have a few aswell.

Insomniac!, on 9 Jan 2009, 16:40, said:

lol, a baby that gets hard from toes . possibly tho. i know sum friends whov liked the same things sinc elementry skool

WNxmastrefubu, on 11 Jan 2009, 5:35, said:

That was totally disgusting and could not be more inappropriate. Do not post something like that again.

Høbbesy, on 10 Jan 2009, 6:46, said:

Would you confess such things here if you wouldn't be 'clean'?

Oh I admit there are always thoughts of different things, but as far as now, the 'normal' behaviour is still more attractive.

Aftershock, on 17 Jan 2009, 4:44, said:

I never confessed to anything. However, I did spend a year browsing through DeviantART out of boredom. You could hardly imagine half the things I saw there.
Edited by Høbbesy, 17 January 2009 - 18:16.

Høbbesy, on 18 Jan 2009, 3:15, said:

ha lol ever spend an hour on 4chan that's full of normal people lol

I got to admit I have a fetish for taller women. I don't mean giants but any woman slightly taller than me is a turn on. I'm also very short (165cm) so I'm easily pleased as well.
Edited by Overdose, 21 January 2009 - 18:44.

Overdose, on 21 Jan 2009, 20:43, said:

You'd like Dutch women . With us being the tallest people in the world after some people in the Dinaric Alps and our females averaging about 168-169 cm, you could certainly do worse .

Overdose, on 21 Jan 2009, 18:43, said:

Hmm more a thing for petite girls myself - though with Britain being how it is at the moment, you either get petite or... big-boned nowadays. Oh, and a slight... thing... for redheads - but a petite redhead is a no-no.

AJ, on 22 Jan 2009, 11:27, said:

I do understand the petite thing too, rather oddly though I have never properly fancied anyone younger than me, its not an older woman thing where I'm looking for someone with 15 years on me, but one or two years is always the sort of range. Well w00t 2nd and 3rd year PhD students, *is happy again*.

I think there's something to be said for that - especially tolerance for the age of the opposite sex. I for example, can imagine a two year gap, either way, as acceptable more or less for me, personally. Whatever anyone else wants to think, so be it for them. However, as I get older, I imagine that gap will increase until the point where i am no longer at an institution that groups according to age, at which point it'll probably be 'anything goes', to a degree. Personally, having grown up with parents who are 7 years apart, it has sometime proven odd - that was for me, in my last year at senior school, dating someone who had just left primary school. *Shudders* However, from the point of view of a 30 year old, dating a 23 year old doesn't seem too wrong - a bit iffy maybe, but not much.to be honest I'll probably keep a lower threshold of about 18/19 for the next few years at least, but allow my higher range to increase as my age does, resulting in a broader cross-section of women. Each to their own however, and the best of luck to them in making it work. If I'm frank though, older women just seem a little more... 'with-it' to me, but that's likely just me. It's up to you, and what your society inflicts upon you - and i doubt there is really a universally accepted age range once a person passes into adulthood according to their state.

As for petitness, there is possible a tendency to approach women of a smaller nature. I'd imagine it's something to do with the male psyche, wanting to be able to hold something that doesn't exceed your grasp, and to have something that appears manageable, someone that makes you feel like the larger person, the male in the relationship. Ofc, there are others, like OD, who do not feel this way. This does not mean necessarily going against nature, but simply choosing personal preference. Most people go with their judgment, and most will let nature run it's course, but some will not, and this in itself is the essence of nature - it's not always obeyed. However, should you look at it in another way - OD's choice in womens' height is such that it's probably not far off most males of average height - and so be it - plus coming from a Brazillian culture, there are a lot of tall, confident women in that region. In Britain, most women are short - you'd be in with a serious challenge if asked to find someone of the height, or likely beauty, of Gisele Bündchen (Brazillian supermodel) - it doesn't happen, and is probably right back to the basics of our initial genetic code.

Hence, either way, it's what you choose to make of it, and what nature/culture has provided you with. For me, a 20yr old petit brunette with shortish hair (forgot to mention that earlier) (eg collarbone) with brain would go down a treat with me. But then again, there's millions of them in the UK, but very few on other continents. How odd eh?

Oh, and Dauth, they'll be smart enough to know when they see trouble coming....

Overdose, on 21 Jan 2009, 18:43, said:

isee this quite a lot, lol "tall leggy blondes ftw", yet im the total opposite being "petite cute brunettes ftw".

on topic: something i read a while ago, that doing BDSM can reduce pressure upon someone who is stressed which is why some people do it

hey Overdose i could hook u up with a south african chick im about 178 and my head is level with her neck, shes hot but she is a complete hollow bitch with attitude problems though

edit: dam spelling lol XD
Edited by Major Fuckup, 23 January 2009 - 02:42.

I think fetishes are personal preference and they are developed when your a child and you liked those things etc.