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[CoLT]

Well maybe. But "xx" refers to "kiss- kiss" its from "xoxo" which means "hug-kiss-hug-kiss". Basically it's used as an goodbye, really. I've been told it means nothing.

And to the non-Aussie people. Simple sound out the message in an Australian accent and you'll understand it.

Although now that you pointed out "xx". I noticed that it IS "xx" and not "xoxo" the relevancy of this is... questionable though.

[Athena]

I would not write either to someone I consider a friend but that may be me.

[smooder]

signs..

Eyecontact is a good one.. if her coloured part of the eye is big.. she "Facking laves you"

Coz thats a natural sign that someone is trying to make themselves more attractive.

Laughing at things you say... even if they arent remotley funny is another.

If they pounce on you thats also a good sign.

But only if the above are done.. coz if not...

They might be trying to make you go away.

Edited by Smooder, 14 April 2007 - 08:57.

[Ektufall]

If interest is shown it is shown only time will tell ,what endding you will get with that particular person .. If you can't read women's minds ,you can't be 100% for any thing related to them Just enjoy moments you have .

Edited by Ektufall, 14 April 2007 - 09:40.

[Athena]

You can't read people's minds 100%. But it's also partially what makes life fun.

[Ektufall]

Blaat85, on 14 Apr 2007, 12:44, said:

You can't read people's minds 100%. But it's also partially what makes life fun.

With all the mysteries life is more fun than knowing it all .. Only it feels like backstab if you have been used only for particular reason .. For examples: you get interest of women and reasons for it is only to get one night pleasures ,but when time goes on you caught your self to have made feelings to her . But more than flesh you will never get from her .. Bit too harsh ,but that is one thing I have experienced in my funny life..

[CoLT]

UPDATE

We haven't gone out. I've txted her twice over the past few days and got no reply to either one. Feeling quite crestfallen...
Somehow I doubted the sincerity of her words. I'll be seeing her this Sunday at drama rehearsals probably. I'll just talk to her then.

[LCPL Carrow]

CoLT, on 13 Apr 2007, 23:06, said:

Well maybe. But "xx" refers to "kiss- kiss" its from "xoxo" which means "hug-kiss-hug-kiss". Basically it's used as an goodbye, really. I've been told it means nothing.

And to the non-Aussie people. Simple sound out the message in an Australian accent and you'll understand it.

Although now that you pointed out "xx". I noticed that it IS "xx" and not "xoxo" the relevancy of this is... questionable though.

Yeah, I know what it means, and that's why I thought it was interesting. It's a very flirtatious thing to write, but some girls I guess are just more given over to using it than others, and may not really mean anything by it. Sucks that she hasn't answered bro, believe me I've been in the same boat too many times before. Definitely talk to her Sunday. She can't simply decline to answer if you confront her in person. Best of luck!

And yeh, soundin it out in an Aussie accent did help, mate

[CoLT]

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And yeh, soundin it out in an Aussie accent did help, mate

Yeah I thought it would.

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Yeah, I know what it means, and that's why I thought it was interesting. It's a very flirtatious thing to write

Well I guess it is, but too many girls here use it and it's kinda lost it flirtacious-ness. But like I said, it's interesting that it's "XX" and not simply "xoxo"...

And yes, blaat, it probably isn't something you'd type to a friend in most places but hell, this is Australia. It's kinda topsy in many ways.

[Sgt. Nuker]

I can see why you'd be crestfallen, as your hails have gone seemingly unnoticed. The best thing you can do is to try and chat with her at drama rehearsals, but keep in mind, if she seems a bit standoff-ish, or doesn't give you direct eye contact, she may no longer have an interest in you. If I were you, I'd prepare myself for that. Actually, I'd be prepared for the situation to go either way. Try not to think the worst now, even though that's easier said than done.


Best wishes,

Nuker

[LCPL Carrow]

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Well I guess it is, but too many girls here use it and it's kinda lost it flirtacious-ness. But like I said, it's interesting that it's "XX" and not simply "xoxo"...

Hm. In Atlanta, Georgia, girls don't typically write that unless they're trying to tell you something. Cultural differences FTW, I guess. And the "xx" is lacking an additional 'x,' or I would agree with you that that is VERY interesting...

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I can see why you'd be crestfallen, as your hails have gone seemingly unnoticed. The best thing you can do is to try and chat with her at drama rehearsals, but keep in mind, if she seems a bit standoff-ish, or doesn't give you direct eye contact, she may no longer have an interest in you. If I were you, I'd prepare myself for that. Actually, I'd be prepared for the situation to go either way. Try not to think the worst now, even though that's easier said than done.


Best wishes,

Nuker

QFT.

Edited by LCPL Carrow, 17 April 2007 - 17:55.

[BillyChaka]

Um... I'm curious as to where to put this question, so I think this'd be the best place to put it.

Is it wrong to like a girl who's older than you? Is it embarrassing to the girl?

I ask this because I'm a freshman, and i'm good friends with a junior. I really like her, and I don't know what to do.

[Sgt. Nuker]

First off, it's not wrong, as your age difference is, at max, 3 years. Ask her a hypothetical question, about how a girl feels about younger guys. Though be fore-warned. If you aren't careful with your wording, she may get wise, and think you're really asking about you and her.

Secondly, how good of "friends" are you with this juniour? Do you find yourselves able to chat about anything, or do you have to make small talk everytime you guys meet? Once you get out of highschool, the subject of age kind of disappears. Not totally, but it isn't as much of an issue as it is in high school.

The best thing to do now Billy, is just talk to her, maybe find out a little bit more about her. Hang out with her wherever possible, and wherever appropriate. Do things with her/for her, but try not to be too obvious, until you know how she really feels about you.


Regards,

Nuker

[BillyChaka]

We're "Pals for Life." That's what she calls the four of us. (Me, her, and two other friends.) We're very close friends. And to answer your other question, we can talk about anything. She even made me promise to talk to her if anything were wrong or anything like that. I told her a secret and she said she had to tell me one too. Apparently she's still trying to think of one.

Thanks for the tips, Nuker. I'll try to see how things turn out...

[CoLT]

GL with that, Billy. That's the similar thing with me and my best friend's girlfriend. Yeah I know, it sounds a bit But we can talk about anything, literally anything and she's always saying that I'm the best person to be around (cept of course her bf) and that she always wants to help me when I got problems. I've discussed this issue that I presented earlier with her and she was very eager to listen and talk it through with me.

And I think an age gap of 3 years isn't a problem when High school's over. During, may be something else. But that's probably just what I know of Aussie high school because it is different to the States.

[Lord Atlantis]

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That's the similar thing with me and my best friend's girlfriend. Yeah I know, it sounds a bit But we can talk about anything, literally anything and she's always saying that I'm the best person to be around (cept of course her bf) and that she always wants to help me when I got problems. I've discussed this issue that I presented earlier with her and she was very eager to listen and talk it through with me.

Wow... that sounds exactly like what I have. 'Cept my best friend it the girl is my best friend and she is going out with another good friend of mine.

-Lord_Atlantis

[Whitey]

Finally got my own courage up and asked someone out via e-mail. I hope for the best but am nervously expecting the worst. Or a slap in the face, that works too. She doesn't seem the type for that last bit though.

I'm sorry to hear about your endevours Colt, good luck man.

[Sgt. Nuker]

@Billy: Sometimes a relationship such as that can be a good thing. When you start dating, you want someone who shares your interests, and you can tell anything to. This is the very thing you two have, and it's rare to find someone like that who wants you to be "freinds for life", let alone trust you with anything. I am glad to hear you guys are "pals for life", as that lets you know she values you. This "secret" she has to tell you, I would hope you haven't thought it's "my secret is that I like you", because that sets you up for the fall. I'm not saying that she couldn't tell you that, but it's not likely she'll come right out and say that. I'm guessing it's something that she's done, or something that's happened to her, that she didn't wish had happened. If that's the case, take that in stride, and talk about something similar to it (unless of course, it's a rather sore subject). If that's the case, be as understanding as you possibly can, and tell her something to the effect of "me knowing this doesn't change our friendship/relationship".


Best wishes,

Nuker

P.S. You're more than welcome for the advice Billy. Remember the advice I give may not get you the girl, but it'll leave a lasting impression.

[CoLT]

I got another question. Different girl, different personality.

We rarely talk in person. Most conversations are on MSN. When we do talk, usually we joke a bit. We are good friends I think. Every once in a while though, quite often enough actually, she mentions a guy she thinks is hot and describes him and when she saw him.

What do you make of that?

[Warbz]

either she is trying to see what ur reaction to this is,
or she actually likes this person

[Sgt. Nuker]

She's probably using you as a gauge. By that I mean, how she describes someone to you, she's watching your body language as well as what you say in reply to what she thinks. Sometimes girls will do this as a way of getting to know you better, by what you think of certain attributes of others. It's an indirect way of judging someone's values.


Regards,

Nuker

[Warbz]

wow.
u are pretty good at this stuff.
seriously

[Sgt. Nuker]

I don't gauge how I respond as to whether it depicts me as "good at this" or not. What I peddle to CoLT and Billy is purely from experience and paying attention to the ladies I come in contact with. Most of my friends are girls, and as such, I make it a point to be as open-minded, and understanding as possible.

With the advice I give, you might think I have a girlfriend. Well, you'd be wrong. Just because the advice I give may work for someone else, apparently it doesn't work for me. That's okay though. All it means is that there is someone out there for me, I just haven't found her/she found me yet. Consider me an Alex Hitchins (Hitch) type, only my "other half" hasn't been found yet.


Regards,

Nuker

P.S. I know no harm was meant by this, and I should have said something earlier, but to be quite honest, I don't like the term "chick" when it's in reference to a woman. I know that there are females who see this term as derogatory (maybe not the ones on the board), but if you gents don't already realize, you need to be careful about using that term.

Edited by Major Nuker, 18 April 2007 - 16:27.

[Athena]

Major Nuker, on 18 Apr 2007, 18:25, said:

P.S. I know no harm was meant by this, and I should have said something earlier, but to be quite honest, I don't like the term "chick" when it's in reference to a woman. I know that there are females who see this term as derogatory (maybe not the ones on the board), but if you gents don't already realize, you need to be careful about using that term.

I'm inclined to agree with what Major Nuker says. I also know no harm was meant but you do should be careful.

[CoLT]

I use it selectively. I use it to refer to those that are the upper tier (as i call it). That means, they are popular, hot, etc. type girls. There are some that I wouldn't consider as this kind. For me, I see it as less derogatory and more categorical.

Well most of this girls' friends are guys and I've seen her french a guy, purely because they are good friends, nothing else. So there you go... different thing entirely.