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[Dr. Strangelove]

Find emotional weak points, like a parents' divorce. Something that really hurts him. Drive it in. Constantly remind him of it. Make it an incessant pain that won't go away. It is cruel, but hey, since when did he deserve mercy? Don't be afraid to act ruthless.

[Reaper94]

Duo Maxwell, on 10 Apr 2008, 21:15, said:

Well, you have to think of bullying as a phase, every child experiences it, every child shakes it off.
You know the bast way to shake it off

mhhhhmmmmmmmmmm

my way was nearly shaking him by the neck.....

[Lizzie]

Make him think your insane. Trust me, it works.

[Reaper94]

yea that one scared ppol away from me, i just told them (in a voice so serious i pissed myself laughing once id walked away)

"if u dont fuck off... ill kill you... and i wont think twice..."

Edited by Hinata, 10 April 2008 - 20:23.

[E.V.E.]

Take him down.
Don't try to fight him straight away, but throw some good fitting mobbing Sentences against his head.
He might get provocated or even start a Fight and you shouldn't back of then.

If he realy starts to attack you, take that guy down with Speed ( Hope you have some ).
Only thing fat People can do is punch with extreme Power, but need time to get back in condition for their next attack.
That's the time where you need to get that guy.

Oh and, incase you never had a fight in your Life: Those end more quickly than you think.
Not like in Tekken or such, Real Life fights are mostly over in 10 Seconds, atleast 1on1s.

Those People won't stop if you ignore them.

- E.V.E.

[Jazzie Spurs]

What did Generals taugth you?
Take a group, and attack. Kids rush KEKEKE!
Note, in this attack, baseball sticks are stricly necessary.
Even chairs do the job. But don't hit the teacher like I did..>.>

[Wizard]

E.V.E., on 10 Apr 2008, 21:26, said:

Oh and, incase you never had a fight in your Life: Those end more quickly than you think.
Not like in Tekken or such, Real Life fights are mostly over in 10 Seconds, atleast 1on1s.

But only on balanced maps sorry couldn't resist.

Although seriously, if you are gonna fight make sure you get the first shot in, if you are lucky it will be a sucker punch and it wont go get started at all.

[Warbz]

I dont remember most of my fights I ahve to have people tell me what happened afterwards, my favourite was when I smashed someones head into a radiator then punched him over a chair.
(this was cos he thought it was hilarious to throw mud at me)

[WARthog]

Well, i got picked on a lot in primary school. My mom always said ignore them, but that doesnt work...it really doesnt.

You have those bullies your the boss, or else they'll just continue. You said hes really fat and actually smaller than you.
Tell you what: let him throw the first punch when he does immediatly retaliate. The best way is to give a real good punch or kick into the region where your ribs come together. I dont know the word but since the heart is right behind it, that will knock him out with the first punch.

Trust me i've had to do that several times out of self defence. The important part is to let them make the first move.

[Reaper94]

E.V.E., on 10 Apr 2008, 21:26, said:

Take him down.
Don't try to fight him straight away, but throw some good fitting mobbing Sentences against his head.
He might get provocated or even start a Fight and you shouldn't back of then.

If he realy starts to attack you, take that guy down with Speed ( Hope you have some ).
Only thing fat People can do is punch with extreme Power, but need time to get back in condition for their next attack.
That's the time where you need to get that guy.

Oh and, incase you never had a fight in your Life: Those end more quickly than you think.
Not like in Tekken or such, Real Life fights are mostly over in 10 Seconds, atleast 1on1s.

Those People won't stop if you ignore them.

- E.V.E.

i never fought back with extrme power (yes i was fat) i just used acurate palm blows and occasionaly a flick-kick to the groin

[Umbrella Secrets]

When I was young I got picked on, I thought he was a friend and he turned on me and started calling me names and trying to get me in trouble. You know what I did? I kicked his ass on the school bus and no one shaw me do it. He stopped and now in High School were friends again, and he doesn't turn on me this time. So if you tried ignoring the bully and that doesn't work, then do what I did.

Edited by S.O.PAtomicarmy, 10 April 2008 - 21:05.

[Jazzie Spurs]

I would suggest:

Yep, a kick, where the sun does not shine.

[Pandut]

EVE said:

Take him down.
Don't try to fight him straight away, but throw some good fitting mobbing Sentences against his head.
He might get provocated or even start a Fight and you shouldn't back of then.

If he realy starts to attack you, take that guy down with Speed ( Hope you have some ).
Only thing fat People can do is punch with extreme Power, but need time to get back in condition for their next attack.
That's the time where you need to get that guy.

Oh and, incase you never had a fight in your Life: Those end more quickly than you think.
Not like in Tekken or such, Real Life fights are mostly over in 10 Seconds, atleast 1on1s.

Those People won't stop if you ignore them.

- E.V.E.

I guess im lucky i have fast reflexes and that i can hold in pain well (Since my brother follows me around the house and annoyingly punches my shoulder)

Ya know, im not very sure i could actually beat someone up, i came close a year back when this kid turned most of my friends against me by spreading false rumors. Every time i think of beating someone up who picks on me i get extremely nervous.


Btw I really appreciate all the help from you guys ^_^
Makes me feel more confident

Edited by Pandut, 10 April 2008 - 21:15.

[Stinger]

You will usually find out later that bullies are people who've a shit life.

Close your ears to what he has to say. When he approaches you, move away, but do not acknowledge his existence when doing so. Don't look at him. I'm not saying you should turn your back - 'cos you never know what he might do then - but just treat him like a non-person.

[Nid]

Pandut, on 10 Apr 2008, 22:14, said:

Ya know, im not very sure i could actually beat someone up, i came close a year back when this kid turned most of my friends against me by spreading false rumors. Every time i think of beating someone up who picks on me i get extremely nervous.

I know the feeling.
We're not excpecting you to just hit him on sight the next time you see him.
As nervous as you might be, as soon as he throws the first punch, you find yourself completely caught up in the moment.
Don't be afraid to swing for the jaw.
On a side note, unless forced to, don't use dirty tactics, tripping him up cheesily will earn you no respect. and this is what you want to stop anyone else who thinks they can bowl up and start pushing you around.

[Rich19]

How do you currently react to this sort of situation? Perhaps there is something you do which he finds funny, so he keeps doing all this stuff in order for you to do it again. I would advise in general for you to try and keep your head down. If you have friends who you can hang out with, do so. Another thing which works well can be laughing along with them. Take everything they say with a pinch of salt, and laugh along with them if they think something you have done is funny.

If, however, he does things like jabbing you with a needle, that's a whole other ball game. Unprovoked violence from a bully is best met with more violence, despite what your teachers might tell you. You don't want the bully to get the impression you are a doormat to be walked all over. Stand up for yourself, but try not to throw the first punch if totally unprovoked (i.e. don't read this and decide to hit him round the back of the head next time you see him in a corridor). It's easier to plead self defence that way, and if the school authorities find out about a fight between one kid and another, and one if them is saying they are getting bullied by the other, they will treat it far more seriously than if it were simply name calling, etc.

Above all, try not to let it get to you. These people will be off to enjoy fulfilling lives as bin men and factory workers as soon as they get the opportunity to leave, so try not to take what they say to heart.

[LCPL Carrow]

Find your local Marine Corps recruiter. I'm sure he can help. j/k

It is imperative that you stand up to him, or everyone - including him - will think you're a pathetic little bitch and he'll continue to fuck with you. He's fat, and he's short, he's picking on you to compensate for that because you're making yourself an easy target. The next time he touches you somehow, light his ass up. Here's a tip: don't go for the head. Everyone is so obsessed with punching in the head. Punch him in the solar plexus, then when he doubles over, grab his head and knee him in the face. And that's it, he's done.

[Troa Barton]

Pandut, on 11 Apr 2008, 4:58, said:

Its kinda hard to ignore him when he jabs a needle in my arm...But the teachers dont do anything...they'll just talk to them but dont punish which really pisses me off. I already cussed him out today becuase he was acting like a 5 year old and kept on annoying me and stabbing me with a needle...

A needle!!!!!!!!!!!!
What kind of school is that?

Edited by Troa Barton, 10 April 2008 - 22:48.

[Sgt. Nuker]

Have you ever thought of not giving this rotten jerk the satisfaction that he's getting to you? Most bullies pick on "easy" prey, the ones that show the hurtful comments and rumors are effecting them in some way. If you don't show that what he says bothers you, nine times out of ten, they'll stop after a few insults because you're no longer "fun" for them.

Just something to consider among the wall of insight and possible ideas to try.

[Flechette?]

There's quite alot of ways to deal with this, especially since most kids i've met have the attitude of a particularly insane cow and have no qualms of biting and fighting dirty. Trying to avoid or making contact as little as possible works for those with mile high egos (they usually only boast if you're close or if you've been pissing them off), acting rather casual and walking away however only works if they are pushovers due to having a braincell count of about their fingers.
It helps if you're really good at "comebacks" or sarcasm, not only does make them feel stupid, you can gain respect from others. I had a rep in my high school to the point, if anyone complained about a fractured shin or they can't feel their middle finger anymore, they all looked at me.
Self defense courses really help and it can help your esteem if you know you can kick 4 types of snot out of them. And if it comes to that, elbow in the guts, knee to the head and ankle to the shin works. (no joke, i've had to resort to that several times but only do it if they are shoving you around)
Sometimes when the book doesn't work, you gotta use the shotgun. it is a kind of phase, eventually no one bothers you and they take you cool. For me however, I never got over the burst of adrenaline from the fight, but I never ever started a fight because I could and could pick on bullies that once bullied me. You can stomp their ass to make them stop, but you can't scar a person for life. They're humans too, if only because humans are more creative at torture and torment than hell.

[Pandut]

Troa Barton said:

A needle!!!!!!!!!!!!
What kind of school is that?

Actually the hour he picks on me is a sewing & cooking class...

[Troa Barton]

Thats very bad.
If he does that walk out of the class.

[Ion Cannon!]

Im going to agree with what most people are saying ; Ignoring just doesn't work. You mentioned you have problems fighting, so here is an idea. Psych yourself up for it. If he's picking on you think of all the things you hate about him, and the injustice that he's getting away with what he's doing.

Sometimes this helps too well however. I don't like fighting, and im pretty passive and then I just snap. Its like someone else takes over me, scares me sometimes..

However if he still doesn't stop after a good beating just remember this " When you have a good job and a loving family, he will be either dead, in prison or working on some dead end job "

[Flechette?]

I have that feeling too, when i'm in a fight my instincts take over, like I can ninja someone dodging their punches and take them out with one while having no memory of it. It's like a huge rush and you'll often be asking everyone what exactly you did afterwards. It frankly makes me shiver what I can do to people sometimes without thinking it, it bypasses your brain, your actions coming from something deeper, primal and nasty. Like a small animal, you have a vicious streak when cornered.

@Pandut: Can you be more specific about the asshole? What else does he do? Shove you now and then, trip you when you walk past him? What you are dealing with can either be a low life idiot or a "pr0 n00b" bully who bully because they don't have the brains for anything else.

[MentalAss]

I like Overdose's solution, original and in his face, no pun intended. Besides, you probably don't want to hear mine.